My son at 13 years of age went to live with his dad to get to know him after 13 years of not knowing him, this was the 1st time the father was going to be an active participant other than sending child support. I cancelled child support and also signed for his back owed support of over $7900, to be zeroed out, so if my son was to come back to live with me, that money wasn't lingered back into an arrearage payment. An agreement was signed by myself and his father stating the above, it also stated that if my son was to come back to Connecticut to live with me, the father would commence child support payments to me. Well, my son has been back in CT after spending only 2 years with his father, to live with me (because he stated he couldn't support the child financially) since June 8. There has not been even a dime sent to me to help out financially in this child's care! He made it clear how he wanted this not in the court sytem, but how is that possible when he will not and refuses to send me anything. The child lived in Florida for 2 years came back to Connecticut, 1st thing I had to do was to complete a whole new wardrobe for him (for colder months ahead), I spent over $600 and not even a dime was sent to help! I asked for $250 up front and said later we can decide on how much I would need on a regular basis. Then when I said I'd have to see him in court because of nonpayment he says this:
July 7 said he was in no financial position to pay child support, said he was about to lose house and get XXXs child support lowered (he has kids with her)
July 23 said he over drafted his bank account to buy soda, said he was 3 months behind on mortgage, 5 months behind on condo fees and 1 for car July 23 said bills are in 10 days and no checks coming or work to be done, said he bought a case of ramon noodles to get thru August
Sept 8 said he was waiting on a check so he will send some money as soon as he got the check
STILL NOTHING AND IT'S NOVEMBER! Even said he was going to send a check but now was going to use it on a lawyer (had said he was gonna take me to court "and get paid for last year" that was Oct. 20 even called me a few choice names cause I need help to care for OUR SON!
LOL said he was going to collect for the time the child lived with him, even though he signed an agreement that states he cannot, even asked "YOU GET THAT HOUSE YET? I WOULD HAVE JUST WAITED ANOTHER WEEK FOR A MISELY $250", what was he going to do, put a lien on it, a house where his son resided LOL (I had sent my son stuff through mail and bought him clothes when he visited in the summer: sneakers, tank tops, shirts, underwear, jeans, socks and sent down a box of school supplies the 1st year) It was agreed I'd contribute to my sons needs when I can and I had. FUNNY THING IS, IF THE $250 WAS THAT "MISELY" THEN WHY HADN'T HE SENT IT???
So I had $7900 zeroed out, he had paid me $50 / week child support prior = $2600/year, a few months before my son moved to Florida the father started to pay $149/week, now the father seems to think he has thousands of dollars spent in the 2 years his son was with him and threatens to take me to court for it all because I need help financially??? LOL
But anyway, the point is, an agreement was signed, he is not abiding by it, he asked if it can stay outside the courts and now I HAVE TO GO TO COURT to have him help in the care of his own son!
I do not believe he is that broke where he can't send some money to help support his son!
Why do some people think they don't have to be responsible in the care of their children?
Why did he say he have his lawyer call me but no one did, and then says " I don't even want to know your stupid xxx is even alive except to collect money from last year".
UNBELIEVABLE!!! -Melissa
Another frustrated parent who believes that the care of a child is for BOTH PARENTS!
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