Many people were posting their opinions on child support etc... It got heated to the point where one of the board members after answering her post called me an ignorant SOB etc etc... Very unprofessional.
Here is my answer to her post...
Http://www.singlefamilyvoices.com/forum/showthread.php? P=275288&posted=1#post275288
My 1st post was erased by I believe Virgo69! Right after she posted and remove calling me an SOB etc etc... So unprofessional as a Board member!
[QUOTE=Virgo69;275240]sdad, I had to take some time to cool down before I could even post a reply to the last couple of comments you have so ignorantly made on this thread.[/QUOTE]
I think you need to take some more time and cool down even more!
[QUOTE=Virgo69;275240]First, a child born out of wedlock is worth no less than one born into wedlock. Period. Who is to say one life is worth less or more than another other than God? [/QUOTE]
No one is, You and many others are not understanding what I am saying. You keep twisting my words and only see one way! Again I am stating Future Pregnancy Prevention for unmarried couples.
[QUOTE=Virgo69;275240]Second, are you not the spectacular image of a father who refused to take calls from your ex because you felt like she wanted to just dump the kid back off in your lap so she could party? And when after a week went by you finally realized she may just put the kid on a bus and abandon the child so you finally responded to her. What kind of a person does that make you? [/QUOTE]
I made a judgement call and needed to document that I have allowed my daughter to visit and stay with her mother. Also I saved the recorded message where she wanted to leave our daughter with a friend. I am only a human!
[QUOTE=Virgo69;275240]We, who have reproduced out of wedlock but have chosen to step up when the other parent failed to do so deserve praise. Not some antiquated attitude about whether we have or don't have the right to the seek the same financial compensation afforded to those who have marched through the divorce courts and drug the child through hearing after hearing? (no offense to our divorced members)[/QUOTE]
Shame on you for dragging your child through the courts. Your failures with your X is no reason for you to attack me. But if it makes you feel better then go ahead and vent.
[QUOTE=Virgo69;275240]It sounds to me like you have unresolved issues with your mother and somehow think that because she chose to parent the way she did the rest of us must suck at it too and are only looking for a free hand out or someone else to foot the bill. [/QUOTE]
Look who's calling the kettle black... I feel you have much anger that needs to be looked at by a professional. I am very happy who I am and where I am going in life. I will not let you abuse my daughter with what you write! That is off limits!
[QUOTE=Virgo69;275240]Wake up and smell the coffee! It doesn't matter how much one party or the other makes. It doesn't matter who did or did not use birth control. It doesn't matter whether the child was born into a civil union. [/QUOTE]
At this time, your right, but as i said before"Future Pregnancy Prevention" for unmarried couples! Only my opinion! Relax and take a breath!
[QUOTE=Virgo69;275240]It doesn't entitle anyone to walk away from at minimum the financial burden incurred to raise a child. For example, to raise a child born in 2009 to the age of 18 without college is estimated at around 150,000. Add a college education in there (so as to accomodate your request for prevention, education, elimination of welfare, etc) and you are at at a cool $250,000. Who the heck should be expected to be able to swing that bill on their own and why the heck should they? [/QUOTE]
Many parents in the world live on much much less than that and are happy! College is a privilege not a necessity! Some like to live high on the hog! And are not happy with the support they get and want more, GREED!
[QUOTE=Virgo69;275240]If you want a pass on participation, I don't have a problem with that. If you want on pass on financially providing for your offspring then shame on you.in fact, some of us who have posted on this thread "let" the idiot walk away scott free to protect the safety of the child and the parent raising them. The threat of harm was not worth those lousy couple of bucks you have so eloquently referred to.[/QUOTE]
Never wrote about abuse from a parent and I agree that the few bucks should be let go in order to keep the family safe!
[QUOTE=Virgo69;275240]If I remember my other stat right, 60% of children being raised in a single parent household live at or below the poverty limits. How is that fair? Wonder what kind of income that other parent (potentially a deadbeat) is making and not providing? [/QUOTE]
There you go again, worried if you are being cheated out of money. Money is and will be an issue for ever! But life is not fair, so wake up and stop the poor pitiful me stuff and just be happy and positive and instill this into your child. The glass is half full and life is wonderful!
[QUOTE=Virgo69;275240]Don't you get that the one paying the ultimate price is the child? Its not the one who gets his/her can thrown in the can who is being punished. Its not the parent ordered to pay the support who is being punished.[/QUOTE]
The child only suffers in the beginning and through your actions and your complaining. Sounds like you complain a lot. Well stop the DRAMA and push forward. The child will be fine as long as you fill the void and stop the complaining!
If he does not want anything to do with you man or woman then let them go... Using the courts to bring him in when he does not want to is his right. Some humans are just plain evil and I sure wouldn't want to be around them. That is a judgment call on them not to be around you.
I am only giving my opinion of how I feel. I am saying what some of the fathers are afraid to say. You can take it in part or all of it. Your Choice. Sorry if I offended anyone!
I thought I bowed out of all this but you brought me back in! Don't hate!!! Http://www.singlefamilyvoices.com/forum/showthread.php? P=275288&posted=1#post275288
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