I worked as the Executive Assistant for F. Scott Gross and his wife in their $5 million mansion in Pacific Heights, San Francisco in late 1997/early 1998. I started out as a temp and I was hired to be Primus Management's Executive Assistant to the CEO/CFO. The CFO was his wife Terry, a very nice woman I enjoyed work for. The company was Primus Management, a Hospital Consulting firm based in San Francisco. French Hospital in California was one of their contracting hospitals. Since this time, Mr. Gross has since changed gears, moving into his new business model at PhysioHealth in Oakland that I know nothing about.
I wanted to share my experience working for Mr. Gross, for a few reasons. For one, please see my file on Williams-Sonoma. I lost my job working for Mr. Gross the day after Williams-Sonoma served me with restraining order papers, a stay away order of 500 feet. I was employed, working in Mr. Gross's mansion during this period. The R.O. Filed against me influenced events that led to my termination. Men, aka the boy's network, were working very powerfully in an attempt to make me homeless and unemployed at the time (see my other complaint against the Taraval Police in San Francisco).
This is how the ole boys network operates. These men get women under their power, to lie about lesbians who don't date their gender. They viciously fabricate and lie about women who don't play sexual politics in their company. The police get involved and then they attempt to ostracize the woman, making her financially destitute, homeless, and unemployed for not sleeping with men at companies that is strongly encouraged in corporate America. I had no criminal record of any significance to warrant this kind of activity worthy of a Meagan's Law Felon Convict. Just a 7 year old reckless driving ticket from a former high school classmate police officer.
All I was trying to do was do a good job for people without playing sexual politics. I don't want sex with men, and most women I meet. I'm not a typical woman of this day and age. I've been celibate since 1986. I value the ability to think for myself and to work hard. I'm also a singer and recording artist. I was tempted a long time ago to marry for money, to sleep around with men for extra benefits and I chose not too. Men have tried very hard to make me suffer a lot for my not wanting to play their sexual politics.
To put it simply, I was hired from my temp job to work in the Gross's mansion in Pacific Heights, to do a multiple of tasks that included ocasionally coming in on the weekends to attend to their family's difficulties while they were out of town, including coordinating the location of a lost dog in Los Angeles. I was not paid overtime for these tasks.
I was expected to drop everything on my weekend, to come to the aid of this extremely wealthy family that was unwilling to pay me for my time. My basic salary for such a position was low, at around $34K in 1997. That is low for someone who had a lot of experience as an Adminitrative Assistant. I worked for marketing directors at the Marriott Corporate offices, I worked at Xerox for the Worldwide Marketing Manager, I worked for a lot of very high up executives and the $34K I got was way below what I should have received.
Further, during my 5 month tenure working for F. Scott Gross and his wife, they purchased a building for their daughter to live in. I was asked to be the building manager for this building as well, yet not offered a raise or salary increase to reflect this new responsibility.
I was called one Saturday while I was enjoying the park to come over to Mr. Gross's daughter's home to try and fix a pilot light in her oven as she had a date that evening. This provocation seemed facist in nature, I wasn't being paid for my time, yet was intimidated into performing these additional tasks for the family, for fear of losing my job.
I witnessed exhorbiant wealth on this family's property of insane proportions, including a $250,000 entertainment system I was asked to learn and instruct them on how to use. I was a fairly poor woman, who had a scooter I got to work on, and no real assets.
When I was terminated, it was the day after I received the Williams-Sonoma restraining order. I believe I was fired because WS contacted my employer about the alleged problems I had caused them (aka, boys network). They claimed I was fired for not knowing the name of one of their executives when he called.
As for the WS R.O., I had never attempted to enter the Williams-Sonoma property, but had written a few letters to a former employee who didn't respond. I received no warning letter and instead the company unloaded 4 large depos (to see details of my side of the story, please see the complaint file on Williams-Sonoma).
The old boy's network continued with another restraining order, this time only 3 feet, from my 5 time evicted mental patient roommate they got to file fraudulent complaints against me on (see Taraval Police complaint).
I am a victim of the old boy's network on a grand scale. All I wanted was to be respected as a hard working woman who didn't sleep around to get what I needed.instead, I discovered men truly did want me to sleep around, an viewed me as a problem for wanting to get properly reimbursed for my labor and efforts. Clearly, women sleep around in corporations and play sexual politics that has become the norm.
When I left Primus Management (i.E., F. Scott Gross), they gave me 1 week severance and I complained because I believe it should have been more for the amount of time and effort I put without overtime. I filed a complaint with the EEOC but Mr. Gross used the Williams-Sonoma restraining order against me to get my attorney to back down from the complaint.
Wealthy rich men network with one another, they get the police involved to victimize women who don't play sexual politics. That is what I learned.in the end, they want women to think it wasn't worth rebelling against them, but I say it is worth it. They must be taught a lesson not to oppress and lie about people who just want to make a decent living from their work.
Today I work for a top law firm and make $70,000 a year without having to lower myself to play sexual politics. I am good at what I do.in 2000 also designed an award winning web site on the human brain, evolution and memory and sold it on eBay last year. I also am a singer/recording artist studying to be a jazz singer in San Francisco.
Was it worth it to me to stand my ground and not allow these men to frighten and intimidate me into playing sexual politics? Yes. I have my self esteem and self worth. Today I work with a lot of highly succssful female attorneys that has changed my life for the better. Had I been a whore, I wouldn't have anything right now but self hate. As for the women who lied and fabricated things about me in court documents - they overlooked their own behaviors, creating an inaccurate depiction of me to the delight of men who enjoyed their victimization of me as it made them feel the women were on their side. I was being traumatized, and any of my own letter writing resulted from this that were then blown way out of proportion in restraining orders.
Please note: Today I have no criminal record, I have excellent credit, no debts, and I live in a beautiful building in Nob Hill, all from my long hours working at law firms. I started on the grave yard shift and I have worked very hard to attain this level of success for myself. I also have my own recording studio. I did this without the support of a man, all from my own efforts. Men, in fact, continue to attempt to rip me off trying to get their foot in the door to my life. The door is now locked.
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