My name is Rebecca and 4 years ago I was pregnant. I was 19 at the time and in a bad position. I looked into adoption as a last resort. Although I didn't want adoption I decicded to look into as a just in case, what a mistake that was! I met with a family who was looking to adopt a healthy white infant and although they wanted a girl they said that they would settle for a boy.
Throughout my pregnancy I was brainwashed I was told repeadtly by the adopters and Tobi the owner of the agency and Jennifer (so called birthparent advocate) that I was doing a good thing that being unwed and young I had no bussiness raising a child. I was told that if I didn't go through with the adoption I was being selfsish and my baby would be taken from me anyways. They made me feel like an awful person for even thinking of keeping my baby. On the night I gave birth I did not want the adopters there but they insisted.
Julie sat there the whole night while I was in labor and refered to the baby as her son. She told me countelss times I hope your not changing your mind because were wasting alot of time. When my son was born I wanted to hold him and Bill and Julie just about lost their minds Julie did not want me to touch "her baby." When I held my son I felt like I could not do give him away and I fell apart after that is pretty blurry. I was given pain medication I did not want and I passed out. Right as I was waking up Jennifer Pedley came in my room and thrust some papers in my hands and said sign these very groggy and I did they were surrender papers.
Before my son was born I was promised a fully open adoption names numbers visits ect. The works. Shortky after the adoption was final they adopters dissapeared I never got there real firstnames or any info about them. They have decided not to tell my son hes adopted saying "its in his best intrest." After this happen I contacted the agency and they told me its not longer there problem Tobi and Jennifer both told me "go on with your life you will forget this will seem like a bad dream." I have been called names like slut, bitter and crazy by the agency owner Tobi and Jennifer the so called birthparents advocate.
If I want pictures or any info I have to fight with the agency for months to get anything at all. They told me I would forget I haven't they told me its in his best intrest its not. Im angry that this agency its still at large telling lies to young naive scared woman. They don't tell woman there options they dig there claws in and start there brainwashing right away. They are baby brokers they hunt down young woman and then tell them the fairy tail of adoption. They outright lied to me and tell me its not there problem. How sad that they are allowed to still be in bussiness how sad there bussiness is ruining lives everyday how sad. Beware of this agency or baby may be the next baby on the auction block.
Rebecca firstmom to Ben searching since 6-15-00
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