I want to say first that Michigan's election to be a "no-fault state" is a complete and utter "COP-OUT!!!"I was married for near 19 years and in that time had three children with a woman who has no regard for the law. She was arrested 3 times for "shoplifting" and nearly deported from the second offense.in all we spent thousands of dollars on attorneys and court fees to keep her out of jail, or here in the country for that matter. I looked past the first two incidents, but the third put me over the top. I just couldn't deal with it any longer.
Upon retaining my lawyer she preached of "status quo" and how I had to pay this and that. How I had to leave all of my things or the courts would force me to return them. My first order forced me to pay every household bill, every medical bill, and also provide $500 per month to her while she collected unemployment. She told my kids that I left and took all of the money and that I was cheating. I never cheated in the 21 years we were together, but thinking back I wish I had because maybe I'd feel better about what was yet to come. We started arguing in front of my kids, and I vowed that I wouldn't let them see that. I left and grabbed a few things. Had I not taken those few things I wouldn't have anything. Once the divorce proceedings were over I was left with a "torn up upside down house, a stack of medical bills, and an order to pay child support in the amount of $762/ mo. For a child I don't see. I had received none of my possessions that were requested by my lawyer.
I went back to court for visitation and on the day of the hearing, she did not attend. That didn't matter because she had more of a voice than I did. The referee asked me what the change in status was? I told her that there wasn't any. I was ordered the "reasonable visitation" which is too vague for them to make a ruling. I am beginning to see that I don't have a voice at this point. The Macomb County FOC is color blind, and only sees what the orders say. I have lost everything, most recently my home because I was laid off and she enforce the order to shortsell the property. I can only hope that once the property is gone that she will be it of my life so I can live in peace. I don't have a relationship with my children because has alienated them. I can only pray for something to break where maybe, just maybe the kids will see that she is using them against me.
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