I am the mother of John Lays 3rd known child! She is fixing to be 11 years old and knows nothing about her father other than the last time she saw him was on tv on the Oak Ridge Most Wanted List and the fact that he is worthless dead beat criminal who cares about nothing or noone other than himself and his drugs.
Last I heard about him was that he is on the run from the law again and had fled to florida to hide from the law and the child support office. He told my brother that he was working for money under the table so he didnt have to pay taxes or be able to be found by his social security number to have to pay child support.
His latest phone call to my brother, whom they were childhood friends and grew up together, came in about 3 or 4 weeks ago. He said that he had beaten up his old lady pretty bad and was running from the law again, this time I believe in Georgia maybe. Anyway, he was wanting my brother to drive to the state he was hiding in now and pick him up, loan him $500.00 and drive him to another state to hide out at Scott Stocktons house, I think in Kentucky but who knows.
Anyway, my daughter was 6 weeks old when I kicked his sorry, lazy, bumming, drug addict a$ out of my house. From that time on he never laid eyes on her, called, wrote, sent a christmas or birthday card or gift until she was around 6 years old I think. Somehow he found out where I was working and called me there telling me how sorry he was for missing out on her life and how he was trying to change and better himself and begged to get to meet his daughter for the first time.
I never said anything negative to my daughter about him and never hid the fact of who her real father was and had showed her pictures of him and would answer a question she may have had about him from time to time. I always figured there would be a day she would meet him and was gonna allow her to form her own opinion of him in spite of my own.
I allowed them to meet, supervised of course at my home. Like everyone else who ever meets him, she did'nt like him either. He came back a few other times trying to make some kind of connection with her and failed miserably until he brought his girlfriend with him (who my daughter already knew because she had dated my brother before).
Jordan knew she had young kids also and wanted to go spend the night with them so she could play with her kids. She actually went a couple of other times to stay the night at Johns, only if his girlfriend and kids were gonna be there. When she came home from her last time of ever staying there the stories she told of things that went on there pissed me off so bad I would never let her go back around him.
She told me that John had made her and his girlfriends kids stand on the porch outside while him, his girlfriend, and some other friends of his sat on the couch and smoked weed, she told me about all the big screaming fights that went on between John and his girlfriend and how John pushed and slung her (his girlfriend) all over the house.
Also, she told me how John let one of his druggie friends ride my daughter (mind you who was 6 at the time) on the back of a motorcycle, with no helmet on out on the main roads. Needless to say I freaked out, called him and told him not to ever ask to take her anywhere and that he needs to just stay away from then on out (that was at my daughters request).
Since then we havent heard anything from him, thank God!!!
I know of his 2 older kids by his ex wife, then of course my daughter, and then of a little boy he had with another girl I believe would be April, who posted the first dead beat dad report on him. If your at all like me April, your son is much better off without that worthless, poor excuse of man in his life.
My daughter has a wonderful daddy named Chad who has been in her life since she was only a year old. Like they say, any man can be a father, but it takes a REAL MAN to be a daddy and John Lay has never and will never live up to the title of being a REAL MAN, even if he had 10 lifetimes to try it.
I would love for my daughter to be able to meet any of her brothers or sisters because it's not fair for our kids to never know the joys that another sibling can bring to them. It's not their fault their sperm donor is a worthless dead beat. Whats sad is that he will never know what he has and is missing out on with all of his kids, whats even more sad than that is that he does'nt even give a shit. My daughter is much better off without the likes of such trash in her life and will never have to see what a true embarassement he would be if he was in her life because his precense will never be welcomed nor tolerated.
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