We dated, he cheated (at least 7 times to which he admitted), we broke up. He moved some 500 miles away.
He insisted we could confide in each other as friends, and kept asking whom I was seeing. 5 months later, I eventually told him I was dating.
He began to have me followed by a private investigator (I know because he later admitted to hiring one).
6 months post-breakup, I began housesitting for a friend. The PI gave Michael the address, thinking it was my boyfriend's home. Michael promptly drove 500 miles to break down the door. He ran before the police came. The police had a recording of his voice and the break-in from my 911 call, and the DA pressed charges. Michael did not show for his trial in Palo Alto.
He began stalking me himself, driving over 500 miles to do so. At home, at work, at school, I'd see his car or him lurking in the shadows, intimidating me.
Then I noticed things were missing from my home, like a gift from my boyfriend. Michael had broken in and gone through my things, my email, my phone messages and Rolodex. He called everyone male to ask if he was dating me and lied that we were still together. This included clients and an instructor from school.
I called the police, but they didn't take fingerprints, saying it wouldn't hold up in court since Michael had been there with my permission months earlier. The most I had was an email semi-admitting he had stolen my property and broken in, but in the end the Santa Clara County DA did not press charges for the B&E (the San Mateo County DA did press charges for the first B&E, however).
7 months after our breakup, he broke into my home while I was there. I hid in the bathroom, but he found me. Got between me and the phone. Physically attacked me by trying to twist my head from my neck. I managed to squirm away. Came to his senses, and left.
I thought then I should move, but stubbornly I loved my home and didn't want to.instead I changed my locks, again, and reinforced all my window locks. I bought a gun and gun lessons. I bought pepper spray, too.
A year after our breakup, Michael was still sending me emails, even though I would not respond (I didn't want to change my email address because I have my own business). Michael was paranoid of giving his location/identity away, so he would set up anonymous email accounts and never say anything incriminating. Very sick and devious messages designed to let me know he was still out there and believed we would get back together. Sometimes they were angry messages, sometimes cajoling.
Then one day, maybe 1.5 years after our breakup, I went out to my car to find a message gouged into my rear fender - it said "I [heart] LISA".
I decided then it was time to move, and I did. I could not rent my condo to anyone in good conscience knowing they would be at risk. It still remains unoccupied to this day. It is now over 6 years later, and I'm just beginning the rental process.
Has Mike left me alone? No. At this point, I am married, and it is 6 years after our breakup, maybe more. I continue to be harrassed through regular mail. About a year post-breakup, I began receiving regular mail addressed to Michael - at my home address (I had moved out by then, but I visit now and then to collect mail). VISA bills, Blockbuster late notices, AAA insurance bills, cable bills... You name it. I am still not sure why. To establish residence in case it would help him in court, should he decide to show up? To freak out anyone I might live with?
I continue to get a VISA bill, AAA bills, and Blockbuster late notices with Michael's name on them, 6 years later. ACTIVE accounts. I write "return to sender" on his mail, to no avail. It keeps coming.
All I can say is, BEWARE THIS MAN. Michael Charles Minadeo has deep, deep emotional issues and although seems so normal at first, he is a very troubled person and keeps it under tight wraps until he explodes... Then look out! He has physically abused me - not a slap or a punch, but he tried to break my neck. He once tried to jump out of my car when it was going 70 mph. He would call me at 2 am to say he was going to kill himself, and was already starting to cut himself with a kitchen knife. There are many, many examples I could list, but you get the idea. Stay AWAY!!!
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