Following a divorce between Richard (Ric) Eugene Perez, (REDACTED SS#), birthdate 10-29-52,303 W. Willow Rd; Prospect Heights, Il. 60070, Ric remarried the day after our divorce became final and he moved out of state without telling me where he went. I remarried several months later and moved out of state and had no way to contact Ric. I searched for him for years. I even called his parents, Amado and Evelyn Perez, and told them where Ric's only son and I had moved to so he could send the child support checks.
No reply from Ric, and I was not told where to find him. I called and spoke to his brother in law one time and left a message for Ric, which was not answered. That was 1976.
Twenty eight years later our son became a father and had the desireto find his father, Ric, and wanted to meet his long estranged father and begin to get to know each other.
Thanks to (1) the internet, (2) Ric's mother, and (3) a friend of mine who is a detective, I finally located Richard (Ric) Eugene Perez, my ex-husband and contacted him through his mother. Ric and Kathy Perez were both terrified that I had located Ric because they thought I was out for back child support that Ric owed.
That was not my intention at all. I was fully prepared to let by-gones be by-gones for the sake of our son, so he could see his father for the first time in 28 years. Ric spoke with our son and me by phone and told Tim he would come to see him in June and bring our son's 2 half sisters with him. I later found out that one of his daughters has nothing to do with him so that was just more smoke Ric was blowing. His daughter wouldn't ride to the end of the driveway with him, let alone a few hundred miles. She spoke to our son, her half brother by phone and said he was the lucky one not being raised by Ric.
Kathy Perez, Ric's 3rd wife and alcoholic, became so paranoid, jealous and insecure that she started fabricating all kinds of imaginary crap. She has a vendetta because Ric called me one day and we talked for 2 Hours. She is a jealous, vindictive, uneducated lush that is jealous that Ric and I have a son together and she can not have a child with him because he had a vasectomy before he married her. She already has 3 kids with her ex-husband and wants so bad for them to be Ric's, although I can't understand why.
He is not a good father. He neglected his son for nearly all his life, kicked his daughter out of his house at the urging of Kathy Perez because she wants to keep Ric's children away from him and pretend that HER kids are Ric's. She wants to pretend that Ric has no past and that she is his first and only wife. She lives in a fantasy. She chased Ric while he was still married to wife #2 and broke up their marriage by seducing Ric. Never mind that she had a sick husband at home that she took vows with to stay together through sickness and health, good or bad, richer or poorer.
Instead she chases and sleeps with a married man with a family and thereby destroying 2 families. I think probably because Ric had a better job than her former husband. She said she left her husband because he drank too much. Well, duh, SHE'S AN ALCOHOLIC!
To wrap this up. After Ric so rudely rejected our son's attempt to connect with him, I decided he didn't deserve the break I was willing to give him, and that by Kathy Perez instigating the whole situation I refused to let Ric keep the child support money he owed and spend it on his nutty wife.
I hired a lawyer, so did Ric. Naturally he was informed that he had to pay the back child support and he fought it like crazy. I was owed about $60,000, including interest, but I know that would have devastated Ric financially and I didn't want to do that to him, so I waived the interest and settled out of court for the principle.
Kathy Perez has done nothing but harrass me since then, even though I'm sure she won't let her ex husband get away with not paying child support for his 3 kids. She is all about the money and begrudges that Ric had to finally face his obligation and pay for his son's support.
I feel sorry for Kathy Perez but I feel more sorry for HER children. She and Ric already fight about how he treats HER kids. Just wait until they are older and see how fast he kicks them out of his house, too. If he will do it to his own flesh and blood just think how he will treat kid's that don't belong to him when they get on his nerves. I remember how verbally abusive he was to our son when he was just a baby. I guess because he was a boy and Ric is partial to little girls. (Kathy has 2 little girls. Hmmmmmm.)
I would keep an eye on them. One of Ric's former girlfriends told me he used to come on to her 13 year old sister when they were dating and called him a loser because at age 18 he had no driver's license or car. He didn't have them when we were married either and probably didn't get one until age 25 at least. We depended on other people to take us everywhere.
So Kathy Perez, get over it. Ric had to pay the child support after all. The law was on my side and there are no excuses for what he did, other than his animosity for me. As usual he just wants to do what makes it easy for Ric. He isn't man enough to face his only son and explain why he abandoned him. Typical Ric.
He and Kathy Perez claim that Ric is not the father of our son but they have not offered any proof to the contrary, even though I suggested a DNA test. Ric refused because he knows the results would be positive that he is the father of our son. He and Kathy live in a world where they believe that if you deny it long enough it will become true.
I look forward to Judgment Day when all their sins will be laid before them and they are judge by the Lord for their hateful ways. An innocent child should not have to be penalized or abandoned by a father who has so many down right silly reasons for what he did. He said, "I didn't think he was mine because he doesn't look like me." Well, duh! That's because he looks just like me, with only a few of Ric's features. Ric's mother, our son's grandmother, sent her grandson a picture of his dad (Ric) and he said, "I sure am glad I look like you, Mom." Anyone who thinks you can tell paternity by looks is just plain ignorant. That's why Ric refused the DNA test. He also had the excuse that he had remarried and started another family and thought it best to not be in his son's life. Best for whom? For Ric, of course.
But all is well. Ric's son was raised and supported by a real man who wasn't afraid to take the responsibility of raising and supporting another man's son. Ric has a wonderful, bright, witty and loving son and has done nothing but bite his hand that he reached out with to his father. What a guy!
Now Ric has a beautiful 4 year old grandson that he will never know either, but with our son and grandson, at least the Perez name will be carried on, and since Ric only has ONE son he should be thankful that his bloodline will not end with him, but will be carried on through our son and grandson. Even though Ric was finally forced to pay the back child support I still consider him to be a deadbeat dad. He is unfit to be called a father because of his neglect of his one and only son.
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