This is a case of a dishonest landlord who condones criminal and unethical activities. I originally placed an ad to rent a room from someone who doesn't smoke because I have asthma. She said that she occasionally has a cigarette out on the back porch. I figured no big deal. I also specified that I wanted a spiritual person as my landlord/roommate. I just do not do well with non-spiritual people. I had just come from a landlord who threatened to destroy my property out of craziness so I was looking to live in a mature and peaceful home with a sensible landlord.
Within the first month of my living there she starts smoking everyday, several times per day. She would go outside on the back porch and when she came she would bring in the cigarette and half the smoke with her and it bothered my throat. I had to open the front and back door and air out the house in the middle of the winter multiple times because of this. I confronted her about the smoke because of my asthma and health concerns and she said "that just makes me want to smoke even more now".
She also told me in the beginning that she smokes marijuana on the weekends or every other week, not very often. She turns out to smoke it at least 4 nights/week if not more than that. And if she's not smoking she's drinking alcohol or both, usually in the evenings! I learn that she's an alcoholic. She's even admitted to me that she likes cocaine even though I've never actually seen her do it.
At one point I had a friend I will call "B." because she prefers her anonymity. B is a very sweet and spiritual woman who became one of my best friends. We even saw each other (as in dated) for a very short time but it wasn't possible so we remained friends. Carrie believed that she was using me to get to another man and so she would badmouth her a lot to the point where I actually believed her.
Carrie told me that she loves me (as in caring for me as a person) and cares about me and didn't want to see me get hurt. It turns out that B and Carrie's boyfriend spent a lot of time together prior to them dating and because B is fit and attractive and Carrie is disgustingly obese and she has huge insecurity issues. So she did not want B to come around anymore. And eventually told her that she's not welcome in her home! I'm a disabled person who spends about 95% of my time at home and so having friends over is very important to me as it is a support system and she tried to destroy that, despite that fact that B reassured her that she is not interested in her boyfriend. B has a boyfriend and is not interested in Carrie's boyfriend.
One night B spent the night in my room. That night Carrie was out of town and her brother came over, got drunk, threatened us with a hardware tool and we were kind of freaked out. She wasn't able to drive home so she spent the night in my room because of Carrie's brother being so drunk and weird it was scary to her.
Carrie then finds out through her boyfriend that she spent the night in my room. When she gets Carrie asks me, inappropriately I might add, if I'm being sexual with her and wasn't. That Sunday I get a text from B telling me that Carrie went to B's boyfriend trying to play the psychotic moral police at church! Carrie just cannot stay out of my private life! Carrie tries to make it so uncomfortable for B and I to be friends here so that she won't want to come over anymore. B eventually told me that she's uncomfortable coming over. At that point I decided to give my notice to move because this was insane. I have a right to privacy in my own home without my landlord publicly going around telling people what I do in my own bedroom. When I confronted her about it she told "if you don't have anything hide then what's wrong with anyone knowing what you're doing". She's sick in the head enough to condone her own unethical behavior.
Banning her from visiting me is illegal. Carrie sat down with B and told her that she is not welcome in her home in front of me and Carrie's boyfriend. I told her that and also told Carrie that I would with her it's obvious that she has issues so I said I would let her know when she comes over. The very first time I told when she when she was coming over she told me that can't because she's working that day. She's in her office upstairs and I can't have a friend over for tea downstairs with nobody else home. Carrie has a lot bigger issues that she lets on.
A week later after realizing how crazy immature and how much of a drama she is I decided to have B over during a time that Carrie was gone, out on a date with her boyfriend. And that was fine. I decided to text her boyfriend and asked him to let me know when they're coming home so B can be gone before they get home because I don't want Carrie having another psychological tantrum being that she is an immense control freak.
When Carrie and her boyfriend gets home she decides to threaten me. Carrie's boyfriend and I became almost best friends at this point so asking him a favor was just a favor to a friend. Carrie tells me that I do not ask her (instead of her boyfriend) to let me know when she's coming next time that I will have to move out by the end of the month which was less than three weeks away. She had threatened me. And part of the reason why she threatened me, I believe, was because she was very drunk. This threat had nothing to do with our lease, landlord or tenant issues yet she used her position as landlord to threaten me, to attempt to strike fear into me in order to coerce me to do what she personally wanted.
In the last week I was there before I moved she sat down and harassed me verbally making accusations that weren't even true to the point that it make my girlfriend cry.
In the end, Carrie Rust exhibits behavior indicative of Narcissistic Personality Disorder. She believes that she doesn't thing for different reasons for what she does them. For example, she says she cares about me and wants to protect me against being hurt when in reality she's only wanting to protect herself from feeling hurt because she's too insecure and so she has tried to destroy B and my friendship. No one who claims to love someone would do that.
Carrie Rust is psychologically abusive, mumbles cruel things about me and my friends under her breath, she's a control freak, manipulator, a compulsive liar, a drama queen, and she will tell you what you want to hear just so she can get her way yet she thinks she's a spiritual person. Spiritual people don't do those things. When I first met her and she claimed she was a spiritual person I said great, we can meditate then. Not once in the entire seven months that I was there did I see her mention the word meditation as in showing an interested it or any other spiritual practice. She's a fake.
The other reason I ask for spiritual people is because they are drama and stress free people and I get a lot more done around spiritual people because the stress makes it difficult to focus on my work. Since I moved out I have gotten over twice as much done in 6 weeks than I have in the 7 months I lived there. Because she has misrepresented herself and causes so much stress (especially when you're breaking the law and you have walk on eggshells) I have lost work because of that. Because of her deception and dishonesty and unethical behavior I feel that it is fair for you to give all of my rent money back. I did not get what I was looking for and you lied to me because you felt that I was one potential tenant that would not screw you over and I didn't.
Carrie claimed that all of her previous tenants eventually avoided her (this wasn't until after I moved in) and eventually things wouldn't work out. Carrie screws herself over, destroys a good landlord/tenant relationship and wrongs them and doesn't have any sense of accountability at all as in making up for your wrong-doings. You would think a spiritual person would have a sense of accountability. I want my rent money back. $3150.00 If you don't want to give it back then you obviously feel it's OK to break the law and cash in on being dishonest to the point that others suffer just so you can get what you want.
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