If you encounter this individual on the internet (Yahoo and AOL chat rooms), BEWARE. He is a sexual predator who preys on naive young females or lonely women going through personal and/or marital problems. He is seeks sexual thrills at the expense of unsuspecting women who make the mistake of trusting him.
He is in his 50s, about 5'6, Chinese ethnicity, stocky build, beween 180-200 pounds. He is married with children.
He looks to find lonely, vulnerable women, those who are hurting from a divorce or other personal problems. Then he tries to come off as being a kind, compassionate individual; he tells you to think of him as a shoulder to cry on, to confide in him, even though he barely knows you. He really doesn't give a damn about your problems; what he is doing is sizing you up to see if you are an easy mark, but acts sympathetic to your problems in order to gain your trust. He notes your weaknesses so he can use them to his advantage and as a way to control and manipulate you later on.
He knows exactly what to say to gain a woman's trust. He starts off by spilling his guts to you, disclosing highly personal information, such as his past affairs. He feels that by confiding deep, dark secrets to you, that you will do the same. And if you are lonely and going thru personal hell, you may start to spill your guts to this guy because he sounds so kind and sensitive to your feelings. He makes you feel like he trusts you so much by disclosing these secrets, that you feel flattered and start to do the same.
The letters and chats quickly turn sexual. His letters are filled with what he calls revelations, which are nothing more than sensationalistic stories about his sexual conquests and adventures. He claims his wife is sexually unadventurous, controlling, difficult, and boring. He blames his wife for his tomcat ways, justifying his unfaithfulness. He does what he can to make you feel sorry for him and to make you feel that you would be the solution to his bleak sexual existence. He moves slowly, so you do not immediately realize he is trying to manipulate you into some type of sexual activity.
He tries to control you, even if you're from another area. If you do something to displease him, he will lash out. If the you fight back, he will twist things around making the you out to be the victimizer, and he the wounded party, even though he initiated the fight. Often he will say things to provoke you into argument, because he equates fighting with passion.
If you no longer play his game, he will dump you at the drop of a hat, and move on to a more willing individual. He is cold, heartless, and does not care what state he leaves his victims. He uses people for his own sexual gratification, then discards them once they are difficult or not to his liking.
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